how to be romantic

In most cases, after 1 to 2 years of relationship, romance seems to elude even the sweetest of lovers and/or partners. Often this leads to separation because, eventually without that spark, you’ll grow tired of each other. By being romantic from time to time, not necessarily all the time, you give more reason for your partner to love and think about you. Of course, the effort should come from both parties to be successful since it takes two to tango. One should also put in mind that being romantic is not the one and only way to keep your love alive; there are several others (such as here and here). But since it’s the matter at hand, the focus will be solely “romance”.

If you’re looking for reasons why she calls you a troll or he calls you a witch, these name callings are endless, it could be that romance has been long absent in your relationship (or your partner found you very attractive before because you provide a lot of opportunities such as money, career, and a good life; guess what, it’s not the same today). It could have been avoided if you knew how to be romantic earlier; but, nonetheless, romance could still provide an answer to that withering sense of love (although I won’t bet on it if you fall under that case inside the parenthesis). Try to think back of what you’ve been missing before. Did you ever put a thought about making your partner’s birthday special, or how about your anniversary? Did you ever greet him/her with at least a “how’s your day witch?” or “Have you eaten already, you monster?” You might have been taking each other for granted, living from day to day unconsciously walking past each other and tired of even bothering to talk or, at least, know how’s one doing lately. Guess what? I am here to help you through this journey! I’ll be feeding you with information you need to know about romance and how to be romantic. It’s guaranteed to work, if not then…

If you’re still single and wish to impress that special someone, this article will also work for you so read on.

First and foremost, we should define what is “romance”:

Romance is a nebulous thing with the curious property of being describable but not definable. We won't muck with your head and try to suggest there's an ultimate definitive definition out there. Some people will try to do just that and come up with some tidy little definition, like, "Romance is showing you care." Sure, it sounds good at first, but although draping your coat over a puddle and asking if she remembered to brush her teeth that morning may be actions triggered by this same motivation, they rate distinctly differently on the romance scale.

Although it's not so much a definition, as it is no more precise than the word "romance" itself, one way to describe romance succinctly is "what women want out of a relationship." In other words, men aren't romantic, and if you're a man, that's why you need this guide. If you're a woman, of course, you were born with an innate knowledge of this stuff and need not read further.

----Tazkwok | How to be Romantic?

After the definition, knowing which things are romantic and which things aren’t are equally important. If you’ve read the definition above, romance is mostly a woman thing; so if you’re a man, nope you’re not born with it. The ideas that follow will help you better grasp the thing they call romance and the path to successful and lasting love.

Cute things are romantic. My former profile picture is Hamtaro and it’s cute therefore I’m romantic. Teddy bears are romantic. Puppies are romantic. Your baby pictures are cute hence romantic. Taking advantage of the intrinsic romance in cute things obviously depends upon recognizing which things are cute. The rule is simple. Small things are cute. Surround yourself with cute, fuzzy-wuzzy objects or at least look at them frequently and you’ll basically get an idea of what’s romantic. When you can find it in yourself to enjoy and sing to the tune of the “Ham-ham song”, then you’re on your way to becoming a guaranteed romantic. But if you’re into Barney, the dinosaur, umm… try looking for a new cute character.

Romance is best done in low-light conditions. Perhaps, low-light is one key element to being romantic. Candles are romantic. Sunrises and sunsets are romantic. Any kind of low light, you see, is romantic, hence why dinner dates after dark are more romantic than lunch dates at noon. Combine low light sources, and it stands to reason that the air of romance will be so thick, your beloved will be blind to anything else but the radiance of her shimmering knight in armor. Warning: If ever you decide to have dinner dates in fast food restaurants, you’re in for a big surprise. Their overly bright illumination inside will spoil everything, thus unromantic and unmemorable.

Red, the color of love and passion, the color of choice during Valentine’s Day, is romantic. Consider roses. Red roses mean, "I love you." Yellow roses mean, "Let's just be friends," which is synonymous with, "You are irritating, and I hate you." So you do not want to be wrong. Get her red roses, red ribbons, red balloons, red teddy bears, red puppies, and everything else red but, don’t forget, CUTE. With that, she'll fall hopelessly under your spell.

When you are in a romantic date, even in movies, you’ll notice that there’s always background music. Background music helps in making that cozy and sweet ambience. It is thus a prerequisite to being romantic. Please take note that not just any music is romantic. It must be too soft to hear for it to be called romantic. And yet, there are some people who find “punk rock” romantic. I’m not sure about their case.

Chocolates are romantic. Not only that, it’s also an aphrodisiac. When you give a box of chocolates to your beloved, it says, "You could pig out on this tub of lard and bloat out to three tons, but you'd still be the apple of my eye." It doesn't matter if it's true -- it's the message that counts. The real reason to give your loved one chocolate is because any loved one who is kind enough will turn right around and offer you some of the chocolates you gave once the box is opened; get it. Now this, buy her “cute”, “red”, heart-shaped chocolates and it’s definitely one huge plus point to being romantic. It just shows how you care about her; then you get to eat some of what you earnestly gave.

Flair and flourishes are romantic. Whenever you get her a greeting card, get one of the ones with all the curly pink scribbles on it. When you write her letters, make the tails of the 'g's and 'y's really long and the loops in the 'd's and 'b's and 'p's really big. That's way romantic. Notice why when you buy greeting cards, often times they use those long, loopy, curly script writings. That’s because its beautiful, looked specially prepared, and commonly associated with romance and being nice.

Being impractical is romantic. In the Philippines, back when phone pals, television, text-mates, chat-mates, and bloggers were not around; serenading is a way to win a woman’s heart. Sing your love for her. Back then it’s romantic because it’s impractical. Today it’s still impractical plus stupid, but I guess it’s still romantic. Practical things are not romantic, I tell you. But you don’t have to do serenades to show your love nowadays. “Text messaging” her all the time, which is really impractical (but what is common), will do.

Romance is personal. To be romantic, you must be personal and do personal kind of things. It's sort of romantic to buy a mooshy greeting card for your loved one, but to be really romantic, you should sign it. As far as birthday presents and so forth go, you can make the gift personal by carefully considering your beloved's interests and choosing a gift uniquely suited to her personality. Flowers always work.

One of the required ingredients of romance is your time. Nope, there's no way out of it; just your time. Try asking yourself “how can I be romantic when I have no time to be romantic?”

An important part of romance is selective blindness. You must not acknowledge anything about your beloved that could possibly be interpreted as a fault. If a nightmare suddenly woke her up from a twenty minute nap after four straight days of not sleeping at all, don't even say she looks "tired." If "radiant" isn't the least of your comments about her appearance, you're screwed already. If she's rude to someone without cause, second the motion by prattling on about how much nerve that other person had for being such a big fat jerk. If she spilled pizza sauce on her chin, don't say a word, nor give any other indication that her complexion is amiss. Paradoxically, if she gets home, looks in the mirror, and finds it still there, she'll hate you for not telling her, so you'd better find a discrete way of removing it without her ever noticing. And afterward, keep that stray globule of pizza sauce your best kept secret to the day you die.

Remembering your anniversaries, monthsaries, her birthday, her pet’s birthday, and everything else that happened between you since the onset of your relationship isn't so much romantic as it is a stay of execution. But when you start to forget, you'll find out how not romantic cold shoulders and tears are. Your safest bet is to find someone whose birthday is on Christmas (or any other holidays and/or important historical event of the year), then marry her on New Year's Day, because nobody forgets those days.

Mushy names are romantic. Mix up the syllables "pook," "wee," "hon," "oop," and "ums," rhyme a lot, and make liberal references to baked goods. Take these for example, (WARNING! WARNING! TURN YOUR FACE AWAY FROM THE COMPUTER!), "Sweetie Pumpkin Pookums" is a perfectly acceptable and effective mushy name, as are "Moopsie Cutie," "Hunny Wunny Cakes," and, for the extravagant, "Snookie Wookum Weetie Bunny Pie." Carefully craft one for each of you to make everyone around you throw up. If you use these names and don't throw up, you're genuinely in love. For best results, speak these mooshy names with a big dumb grin, an admiring gaze, and a high-pitched squeal, and follow it up with an exaggerated sigh of dreamy contentment. The most important thing to remember about this is never ever do this in front of me.

Being romantic can also be found in style. Do you know James Bond? He’s romantic and women like his type because he’s got style. But if you decide to be like him try avoiding the infidelity, compulsive gambling, chain smoking, and killing people parts. Be elegant, humble, refined, independent, thoughtful, responsible, compassionate, spontaneous, reputable, graceful, polite, literate, entertaining, discreet, funny, upstanding, sensitive, fun, sophisticated, pleasant, selfless, reverent, and genuine. And if you can't, fake it. And don't overdo it. Subtlety is essential. If she doesn't notice, you can always find an opportune moment to work a whispered pointer into the conversation, such as, "Notice how elegant, humble, refined, independent, thoughtful, responsible, compassionate, spontaneous, reputable, graceful, polite, literate, entertaining, discreet, funny, upstanding, sensitive, fun, sophisticated, pleasant, selfless, reverent, and genuine I am."

Did you enjoy the romantic ideas above? Maybe now you already have a more suitable idea of romance in your head. And you’re saying you still don’t understand anything. God, what sort of single celled morsel brained microscopic organism are you? If this post didn’t helped you at all (even how much I gave my effort to prepare it for easy understanding), then, perhaps, you can try these links:

WikiHow | How to Maintain Romance
Secrets of Lasting Relationships
Ways to Keep the Love Alive
A Love Advice
Another Love Advice
A Love Thought for the Day
A Love Advice Called Speaking One's Mind
Love Advice Anyone?
Forgiveness
Silly Joke
Talking to Inanimate Objects
Look Presentable
Past is Past


Resources:
e-Taz | How to Be Romantic?
e-Taz | How to Be Romantic? Part 2

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